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Gender Awareness 101 for Dispute Resolution Professionals - Shared screen with speaker view
Monica Kreiner
21:19
Treaty 8 territory in northern Alberta - living with Cree people here.
sara lambert
21:43
Treaty 4 here in Regina!
Janet McKay, ADRIC ED
24:20
Wonderful to see you share the territory where you are located!
Janet McKay, ADRIC ED
25:18
Feel free to engage you cameras - I'm sure Suzanne would love to see you!
Nancy Watson
28:05
We’re seeing the speakers version of the powerpoint and I’m wondering if someone can alter that so that we can see the slide Suzanne is speaking to rather than it and the next one.
Nancy Watson
28:56
Thank you!!!
Demi She/They Treaty 6
29:04
You're welcome!
Monica Kreiner (she/her)
39:55
What do the medical professionals do regarding the intersex babies on their birth certificates.
Monica Kreiner (she/her)
42:29
It's literally 50/50
Janet McKay, ADRIC ED
42:49
There was at least one documentary on a case where the doctor "chose" and chose incorrectly.
Brin Hamilton (she/her)
44:14
BC now recognizes “X” gender marker on driver’s license and birth certificates. But I’m sure if that is a birth certificate assigned at birth or one re-issued later in life.
Caroline Graham
44:19
Suzanne I wonder then if your child ever gave you any indication before they were 20 that they were not assigned the right gender at birth.
Brin Hamilton (she/her)
44:40
I’m NOT sure*
sara lambert
44:56
transform
Monica Kreiner (she/her)
45:02
transportation
sara lambert
45:03
translate
Diane Tucker
45:22
transaction
Lawrie Cherniack
47:47
Most societies, including Canada, make the differences in sexes very significant, treating boys and girls very differently in so many ways, both subtly and not so subtly. On a personal level, I deplore that fact, and would love to live in a society where the gender differences simply play no factor at all. In a society where the use of sex assigned at birth was NOT a factor in how children are treated, would there be less (or perhaps no) questioning of gender identity and transgender?
Janet McKay, ADRIC ED
47:56
And two-spirited
Janet McKay, ADRIC ED
50:51
I agree, Lawrie. I was shopping in a toy store one time and saw what appeared to be a boy crying because his mother was saying he could not have the pink toy - "it was for girls"
Caroline Graham
52:59
We expect men to be good fathers but don't allow them to play with dolls.
Brin Hamilton (she/her)
58:02
Mom of four boys here - I’ve seen a really wonderful shift in “gender” toys/clothes/etc. My kids routinely wear pink, play with dolls, read books about female protagonists, bake, etc., and so do all of their friends. Thankfully, there seems to be less focus on gender with generation. Still lots of work to do in that area, but definitely progress.
Caroline Graham
01:00:07
Brin, that's great news for the future.
Monica Kreiner (she/her)
01:00:36
And if you are a cis-gendered woman who is not attracted to anyone, you would be asexual. My daughter is educating me about that lack of sexual attraction and that it exists.
Karen Levine
01:17:03
When will IPSOS Reid do a repeat survey? I would hope that we as a society have made some significant steps forward since those dismal stats were compiled in 2017.
Janet McKay, ADRIC ED
01:17:05
You can also "raise your hand" via the "reactions" icon to speak.
Lawrie Cherniack
01:17:34
My question is lost above, so I’ll re-ask it: Most societies, including Canada, make the differences in sexes very significant, treating boys and girls very differently in so many ways, both subtly and not so subtly. On a personal level, I deplore that fact, and would love to live in a society where the gender differences simply play no factor at all. In a society where the use of sex assigned at birth was NOT a factor in how children are treated, would there be less (or perhaps no) questioning of gender identity and transgender?
Nancy Watson
01:21:01
If a new client has not specified their pronouns, how should we address this in communication? Do we simply notice their gender expression or do we ask them? I fear the later in the event that I am wrong and that they have not as yet defined who they are for themselves.
Monica Kreiner (she/her)
01:22:55
I remember years ago someone handing me a baby that was not "colour coded" that I needed to care for briefly. I couldn't believe how "at a loss" I was not knowing the gender. With I boy - I would have bounced him. With a girl - I would have cooed. That was when I realized how we treat infants from a very young age differently and it was not conscious to me until that moment.
Lawrie Cherniack
01:23:16
Thank you, Suzanne. Great answers!
Monica Kreiner (she/her)
01:23:42
In the Cree language, there is no "he" or "she" so often you'll listen to elders tell stories in English and change from he or she as they tell the story.
Demi She/They Treaty 6
01:25:41
If you asked a question that Suzanne did not get to yet, I have it noted ✔️(and hopefully we will have time to circle back to it!)
Deborah McIntosh
01:28:53
I've always felt that honorifics (Ms., Mr., Mrs. etc.) were a crummy deal for women, anyway. It's uncomfortable having to share my marital status (Mrs./Miss) or my politics (Ms.) every time I fill in a form. So I've joined some members of the trans community in using "Mx.", even though I'm not trans myself.
Deborah McIntosh
01:29:15
I thought your doctor might be interested in learning about "Mx."
Cecile Schultz
01:31:30
Thank you Suzanne and ADRIC - outstanding and insightful webinar! I need to leave for another meeting. Thank you!
Janet McKay, ADRIC ED
01:32:54
Thank you , Cecile. We will send a link to the recording so you can see the rest.
Lawrie Cherniack
01:34:04
In some countries, the standard for public bathrooms is private cubicles (floor to ceiling doors) and joint sinks. Solves the problem.
Deborah McIntosh
01:37:00
Non-gendered washrooms are starting to show up in restaurants in downtown Vancouver, too.
Joy Hulton
01:37:29
Unfortunately I have to drop off but thank you Suzanne for your sharing and insight.
Caroline Graham
01:38:19
Thank you for a great presentation unfortunately i have a meeting i need to get to.
Diane Tucker
01:38:52
Thanks for your insights! I need to attend to another appointment, so need to leave.
Monica Kreiner (she/her)
01:39:30
Thank you for the Mx honorific.
Knit Maniac
01:41:34
Yes se do!
Brin Hamilton (she/her)
01:41:44
Got it.
kimberly earing
01:43:44
sorry- no mic today
kimberly earing
01:43:57
nope sorry
Monica Kreiner (she/her)
01:45:30
Got it for scenario 1
Marianne
01:45:30
Sorry, I quit, I have a meeting. Thank you !
sara lambert
01:45:31
Sorry can’t be leader today
Sarah Turl (She/Her)
01:45:48
yes I can
Michelle Phaneuf
01:55:45
Sorry I've joined in as the only other person in my breakout room did not have a working mic and so decided to join in the main room.
Demi She/They Treaty 6
01:56:04
Great! Thanks Michelle :)
Lisa Huberdeau
01:56:06
hi. that was me. I just joined sorry. please let me know
Lisa Huberdeau
01:56:22
I am in the main room
Demi She/They Treaty 6
01:56:59
No worries - I have asked the interpreter to come back on live so that the conversation in this room can continue with interpretation
Janet McKay, ADRIC ED
01:57:07
The interpreter seems to be away at the moment. Hopefully he will come back
Demi She/They Treaty 6
02:05:07
Oh yeah, I think that's how I would approach it 100%
sara lambert
02:05:53
Apologies but I have to step out. I would love to see the recording of the remainder. Thanks so much, Suzanne! Look forward to reading your book!
Demi She/They Treaty 6
02:07:11
This makes me blood red mad - I have a friend (FtM), and they had a similar situation and it was just devastating. He did not have support and ended up just leaving that workplace. :(
Demi She/They Treaty 6
02:09:30
I think this regularly happens with dead names as well - it often slips out of people's minds
Karen Levine
02:12:25
Our group was Scenario 3, most in our breakout room felt they weren't experienced enough to lead a mediation but would like to assist and learn
Karen Levine
02:12:47
We weren't family mediation experienced
Lawrie Cherniack
02:15:17
Thank you Suzanne!
Lawrie Cherniack
02:17:39
They/them has been accepted by the Chicago Manual of Style, one of the major style manuals, and by various dictionaries, as being both plural and singular.
Brin Hamilton (she/her)
02:18:17
So has APA :)
Lisa Huberdeau
02:19:03
What about French pronouns. Il/Elle/lui and what about for They?
Lisa Huberdeau
02:20:21
I also know that there may be an alternative to Ms... what about Mx?
Angela Leger
02:20:33
Thank you, Suzanne!!!
Lisa-Rae Cormack
02:20:42
Unconditional Positive Regard for others
Deborah McIntosh
02:20:45
Your son is very lucky to have you, Suzanne. Thanks for your service to our community.
Monica Kreiner (she/her)
02:21:22
Thank you for sharing, Suzanne.
Carol Norell
02:21:32
Many thanks!! Really enjoyed this!
Patricia Miller
02:21:37
Thank you!
Brin Hamilton (she/her)
02:21:38
Thank you so much for presenting, Suzanne, what a powerful couple of hours.
Karen Levine
02:21:53
Thank you
Nancy Coish
02:21:55
thanks so much. A lot of food for thought :)
Gerry
02:21:57
Thank you Suzanne.
Firoz Verjee
02:22:06
Really well done, thank you Suzanne
Michelle Phaneuf
02:22:19
Thanks for this Suzanne. Much appreciated!
Lawrie Cherniack
02:23:12
Have to leave. Thank you again!
Brin Hamilton (she/her)
02:23:31
I tried to purchase your book the other week, Suzanne and ran into some technical difficulties. Is it available for purchase now?
Janice Tye
02:23:39
Thanks Suzanne - best wishes for your upcoming work.
Rosalia Panarello
02:23:43
Thank you for an insightful presentation.
Suzanne Sherkin
02:24:31
genderinquestion@gmail.com
edith kloberdanz
02:24:52
Thank you.